For almost twenty years, Taylor Swift has written songs about her previous relationships.

She has sung about discovering love, having her heart crushed, beginning over, and every step of the journey since the publication of her debut album in 2007 and continuing until her most recent Eras Tour. 

After divorcing British actor Joe Alwyn earlier this year, the 34-year-old has also experienced romances with a number of well-known men. Travis Kelce, the tight end for the Kansas City Chiefs, is at the top of her list.

Long-standing theories among fans claim that albums by former stars like Harry Styles (1989), Jake Gyllenhaal (Red), and John Mayer (Speak Now) were directly influenced by them.

Taylor’s lengthy discography, according to psychologists and behavior specialists consulted by DailyMail.com, may indicate an anxious attachment style as well as “toxic and self-destructive” behavior.

All of the professionals here have examined the romantic-themed lyrics in the popstar’s songs, even though none of them have worked directly with her.

 

With an increasing number of millennial and Gen Z users seeking psychological therapy, the subject of attachment styles has gained a lot of interest on social media in recent years. 

The nearly century-old “attachment theory” was developed by psychologists John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth and looks at how early interactions, especially romantic ones, affect relationships later in life. 

Four’styles’ of attachment are believed to exist: avoidant, anxious, disordered, and secure.

You are more likely to acquire a secure attachment type, for instance, if your parents were dependable and attentive.

This indicates that you don’t push people away out of dread of being hurt or live in constant terror of your lover leaving you.

On the other hand, the likelihood of having an insecure attachment style—such as nervous or avoidant—is higher in cases when parents were distant.

Relationship coach Dr. Melissa A. Fabello of California told DailyMail.com that all insecure attachment types have a common beginning: childhood trauma. Among other things, our psychological structure is influenced by the way that caregivers react to, or tune into, their charges. 

In other words, we learn to react to the environment by figuring out what makes us feel safest. Your relationships will suffer if you have an insecure attachment style.

Your orientation to relationships, particularly romantic ones, is shaped by this.  

Online, Taylor Swift followers have been debating her attachment style for a number of years. 

According to a Reddit post with hundreds of thousands of comments, the 34-year-old has an anxious attachment style. 

Individuals who have this kind of attachment frequently experience relationship insecurity. 

They suffer from poor self-esteem and are tormented by feelings of mistrust and abandonment, even if they still feel connected to and supported by their spouses. 

Hyperactivation, the characteristic symptom, is the incessant search for indications that one’s partner is about to depart. Additionally, a person with an anxious attachment style may constantly seek reassurance, believe that minor issues could endanger the relationship as a whole, watch for indications that their partner is drifting apart, or believe that their partner doesn’t value them. 

Anxious attachment styles have been linked to mental health issues and a sense of being out of control in day-to-day living, per a 2015 study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology. 

The original poster stated, “I’ve always loved Taylor Swift, and it’s wild to me how many of her songs are literally taken from my thoughts/attachment theory.” 

Delicate is essentially about that initial sense of vulnerability in a relationship. The exact words “my smoking gun” are a fraud! It sounds like an anxious-avoidant relationship to say “tolerate it 100%.”

The song “Tolerate It” from her ninth studio album, Evermore, including lines like “I notice everything you do or don’t do,” which are highlighted in the post.

“It would seem that a lot of pop culture romanticism is highly centered on anxious and avoidant dynamics,” user azafrann said.

According to user smittydoodle, “I wouldn’t be surprised, considering how much older guys like John Mayer and Jake Gyllenhaal screwed with her head in her early 20s.” 

The singer was famously linked to pop artist John Mayer for a few months in 2009, and then she dated actor Jake Gyllenhall in 2010.